© 2026 By Ogbo Awoke Ogbo
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” ~Ecclesiastes 3: 11 BSB
“Sir, please, I just need to talk to someone before I take my life.”
“Sir, if you see this message, I’m currently one of the most confused persons right now.”
“Sir, I am a young man who needs guidance at this point of my life. Please sir, just a few minutes of your time over the phone will truly help.”
I receive dozens of DMs like these weekly.
Let me unpack this upfront: there are three voids in your life and mine. When these holes in your soul remain unfilled, it feels as if your destiny has been stolen, or as Nigerians put it, “They stole your glory.”
The first hole, and the deepest, is the one only God your Maker can fill. No amount of money, fame, worldly success or achievement can fill the void only God can fill in the human soul.
St. Augustine of Hippo famously wrote: “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you.”
He shall never have enough who tries to fill the God void in his soul with money, power or pleasure.
Ask African politicians and greedy businessmen.
The second soul void is the one only the human family can fill. Grandparents, parents, siblings, cousins, wife, husband, children, in-laws.
God designed and created every family, of every race and every color, for a reason.
Every member of your family has a place in your heart, by design, that no other person can fill.
When my younger brother went to heaven, I felt in my body that a portion of my soul had been torn apart.
Memories exist for this reason. Because memories of him are still so treasured and deeply felt. This is why we must build good memories in the family while we still have the chance.
I often wonder what my life would have been without my in-laws. In fact, I don’t even call them in-laws.
I never called my wife’s parents in-laws. They were my parents. The love, the joy, the psychological safety my wife’s siblings bring to my heart are unquantifiable blessings.
They would say the same of me.
Social media cannot fill the void your family was designed to fill.
The third hole is tricky and hard to articulate, but it is you. You occupy a unique coordinate in God’s plan that only you can fill.
The snag is that if you have not filled the first two holes in your soul, you can hardly discover who you are, what you carry, and what your leverage in the world is.
But I want to double down on family this morning.
Most families have fallen or are falling apart. Bitter divorces, toxic parenting, conflicted marriages, betrayals, infidelity, sibling rivalry, family members in court, and even diabolism.
There are marriages where the two people are now mere roommates. The romance is dead. The communication line is dead. The spark in the relationship is gone.
My friends, can’t you see that the family system has been under heavy fire because the broken family is the enemy’s factory?
The devil is doing a great job making families dysfunctional. Broken families manufacture broken souls. And broken souls hurt themselves and others in society.
Let me give a cold charge this morning: reconcile with your family this week! It is hard, but it is doable.
If you make peace with your family, I dare you, 95% of your current spiritual, health and financial issues will begin to find resolution.
Find it in your heart, with God’s help, to call for a family renewal and reconciliation meeting with your parents, siblings, children, or wherever the family fault line is currently situated.
Send them this meditation to help prepare the soil of their hearts.
I am saying this with tears in my heart: many of the DMs I receive weekly are problems the family should have taken care of privately. Many martial battles raging on social media should never have been public if the family void weren’t there.
Your family is your first line of defense in a medical, emotional and financial emergency. But because you carry the void in your heart, you keep sliding into the DMs of total strangers to fill a need that family was created to fill.
May your family heal its wounds. May your home recover its laughter. May your children find safety in your presence. May your marriage receive fresh breath. May old wounds lose their poison.
And may God restore your family “altar,” because when the family is healed, many destinies breathe again.
I love you.
Be healthy, wealthy and wise.
